13 Jan 2014

First Day at Pre-School

13 January 2014. Our date with destiny. J's date with destiny. It is the dawn of a new era, the beginning of a brand new chapter in all our lives. 

We are making the transition from leading carefree, almost unstructured lives to following timed, independent routines. The first time that J has woken up to an alarm clock. The first time I have woken up to an alarm clock in a really long time. 

First Day at Pre-School
Today is the day our J starts pre-school. Today is the day, if you overlook our little stint at nursery when he was a little baby, that we will be away from each other for any length of time.

I write this sat in the local cafe, all by my lonesome self, a large guilty mocha latte in front of me. So I have already dropped J off at school. After tears, hugs, lots of clinging on and a heavy heart. 

The very reasons we decided to quit nursery at 17 months. After starting at 12, going for just a day a week, and missing a few with coughs and colds. The separation anxiety was wrecking me. 

I had a choice then. The choice of becoming a stay-at-home mum. I don't have a choice now. Other than to consider home-schooling. That is a step too far, even for a softie like me.

So my darling J, it is time for school now. A bit of separation, a little anxiety, a few tears. But in the end, lots of fun, lots of friends and a structured education.

P.S: I must say a huge thank you to all my fellow parent bloggers who have taken the time to read about our milestone and share their thoughts with us. 
After initial distress, J settled down at school. There were no tears when I went to pick him up. And he says he will go back again. So that's a relief!
Thank you all for sharing your experiences. And for taking time to read ours. It helps to know I am not alone.

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32 comments:

  1. So hope this goes well for you all. What a big step. But I hope, in the long run, a positive one. Hopping over from #magicmoments

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  2. Hang in there, we had lots of tears for the first term, but within 5 minutes of me leaving he'd be happy and have lots of fun. That was over a year ago. We moved to the Nursery School in September and he loves it - no tears, just 'Mummy can I go to school today?' It's weird when they're not with you and you're not in control, but they get so much out of it #whatsthestory

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  3. Let you in on a little secret? I couldn't handle the separation anxiety either. That is why I never ever dropped the boys at nursery or school. For almost 8 years my husband was the only one who EVER went into school in the mornings. I was on pick up duty.
    But it does get easier with time. And tears. And guilty mochas :)
    Good luck to both of you!

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  4. Gosh this must have been so hard - I hope it went alright today. I think it affects us more than them doesn't it, not that that makes it any easier. I did what Orli did for a while when POD first went to nursery, he used to take her! It does get easier though and J will love it. Remind me of this when POD starts pre-school in September! Thanks for sharing with #whatsthestory

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  5. awww so cute! it's never easy adjusting to dropping them off at school though, but i hope he will enjoy it

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  6. Hope both of you had a good day away from each other, J at preschool and you doing whatever you do on a day without your kiddo.

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  7. Oh bless you. It is so so hard to let them go but the nursery staff always assured me that as soon as I was out of sight the tears stopped and my little ones had a great old time. I am sure J will be the same. I do really feel for you though x

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  8. Aww sending you lots of hugs. It's such a big milestone.
    I hope he had a really brilliant day today and makes some wonderful friends.

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  9. I must be heartless. The joy of the day is to send them to school to learn and mix with other!

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  10. Well done you! I know the taste of that guilt flavoured coffee too well. I have attempted to put f in not one but three times a year ago and as each date came and went he stayed with me at home. Now he has to go in, so I am looking at all the places again and quietly dreading the first day x

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  11. Awwww, I hope he settles quickly and loves it - and that you cope ok. I have always missed those carefree mornings. I had to return to work full time with my eldest was only 14 weeks old. Nearly killed me. Then when he was 2 I gave up - and we had a blissful few months with no strict routine, no alarms, nothing.

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  12. Awwww, I hope he settles quickly and loves it - and that you cope ok. I have always missed those carefree mornings. I had to return to work full time with my eldest was only 14 weeks old. Nearly killed me. Then when he was 2 I gave up - and we had a blissful few months with no strict routine, no alarms, nothing.

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  13. Awwww hugs! I feel that way every time the holidays come to an end, and similar on a Sunday evening. Nothing like the high when you pick them up though!

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  14. My son started preschool last term after a stint with me as an accidental SAHM, it does feel strange doesn't it? The hugs when you collect them are marvellous though :)

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  15. oh gosh I remember when my son started school. I was more upset than he was. It does get easier *hugs*

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  16. I hope it was a good first day and that J is happy to go again. It will get easier.

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  17. Oh bless you both. It is a really big change, and you won't be the first mum to go home or to the coffee shop with tears in her eyes. I know I did with both of mine, at just about every transitional point including the start of senior school. Love to you both - huge hugs x

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  18. It's a hard tng to do, bt he will get SO much out of it x Hope it's going well x

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  19. It doesn't get any easier.My eldest started secondary school last year and I was in pieces :(

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  20. I'm so pleased he wants to go again. My eldest and youngest went with no problems, the middle one screamed my name over and over as I forced myself to walk away, tears streaming. It took a few months but she finally started to enjoy it :)

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  21. Glad he had a good day and what a gorgeous photo. He looks so vulnerable and young there.

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  22. Aw I do hope that this time, you've found the right place for him. Such a big step isn't it?

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  23. I hope you're OK now. I found it really hard when my eldest started school and in a couple of years' time she'll be off to Uni! I'll miss her dreadfully but I know that we have to let our children go.

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  24. Well done you and well done him. It gets easier xxx

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  25. Just popping back from The Gallery, hope it's going well x

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    1. Thanks Sara. Today was a bit better than Monday. So we are getting there, I hope to think!

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  26. Aww, it's tough, but it gets easier! My daughter is due to start pre-school after Easter and she is so excited!

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  27. awww honey thank goodness he finally enjoyed it in the end!!

    thanks for linking up with #MagicMoments xx

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  28. It is hard but soon you will both get exciting not only for pick up but to see the lovely things that have been made for you and disccusing eachothers day x

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