24 Feb 2016

Of Spontaneous Lunch Dates and Rekindled Relationships

I honestly can't remember the last time M and I went on a proper child-free date. We are the sort of parents who refuse to hire a babysitter. With only friends on hand to carry out child-minding duties, we think it best to call in that favour in real emergencies. 

Also, there is always work to do. DIY, bills, cleaning, online shopping, there is no dearth of tasks to occupy any child-free hours we may occasionally have.

Of Spontaneous Lunch Dates and Rekindled Relationships

Not so this Monday gone. M was at home, J was at school, and I was hungry. Wagamama have only recently opened at The Trafford Centre and I really fancied eating spicy edamame beans. So I dropped the blogging, M dropped whatever it is that he was doing, and we headed out for lunch.

What made the outing special was happened before, during and after the meal. 

I had made the effort to brush my hair, apply a touch of make-up and change out of my comfy school-run trainers into a pair of boots. There was absolutely no back-seat driving or petty squabbling in the car. 

We sat at a cosy corner booth in the restaurant. We sat across the table, facing each other. And bar the couple of food photos I took, there was a complete absence of screens throughout lunch. M and I, we talked. Like we used to, since we first met all those years ago. 


And then we held hands as we strolled through The Trafford Centre. Just like we used to all those years ago. 

We stopped to eat ice-cream and to pick up a pair of earrings. Claire's had an offer going, so I ended up buying three. We returned home to cups of tea and jam biscuits. And then it was time to do the school run.

Of Spontaneous Lunch Dates and Rekindled Relationships

I was smiling as I changed back into my trainers. I felt happy. I was content. M and I were back where we belonged. Together and in love. Just as we were when we first met all those years ago.

Only now, there was an additional dimension to that love. One that we are truly grateful for. And I was off to pick him up from school. 

But sometimes, just once so often, it pays to have a couple of hours to ourselves as grown-ups. To reflect and reminisce and rekindle that love.

17 comments:

  1. What a lovely day for the pair of you. My parents lived miles away so we never go out together and we're always working in the day.

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  2. Aww! How lovely. My fella rarely have time without the kids so we sometimes go out for lunch and make the most of it. It is so nice to reconnect x

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  3. Oh I do love Wagamamas too, now if only we had one closer! ;) Like you, me and my husband don't like the idea of babysitters, so I don't remember the last time we had a "proper date". Although to be fair, it's easier now that our daughter is in school. If we wanted to go out, we'll probably have to do it in a school day ;) It's nice to be able to go out once in awhile without the little ones, isn't it? :)

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  4. How lovely, you really do need to take some time out for each other. My husband and I sometimes have school day lunches as its so much easier to organise around the children.

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  5. Ah what a lovely post - it's nice to take time to do things together, really makes you appreciate what you have x

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  6. This is such a lovely post, it sounds like you had a great day together. I am the same as you that we don't hire babysitters and keep family's offers for when we really need them so we rarely get any couple time together. I think when you rarely get time with your partner you cherish the odd time you do get together that little bit more xx

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  7. this is so lovely! it is not very often the Mr and I will get time to ourselves but it's always a nice reminder that we are also a couple (as well as the many other labels we now have) what a lovely day!

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  8. This post made me smile :) I've started to make more of an effort with my husband in the odd times we get time alone. It's definitely worth it :) x

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  9. Love Wagamama's. Glad that you got a little date time, it's even better when it's spontaneous. With a newborn in the house I'm missing this at the mo.

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  10. Awww how romantic, spontaneous dates are the best and glad you got to rekindle your love and feel contented.

    Anosa

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  11. Aw that's sweet. I still hold hands with me Mrs. Always have done. I don't understand couples who don't!

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  12. Agreed when you become parents all your time is swallowed up by them and it is important to make time for each other. I like how simple your date was and that reaffirmed how much you love each other!

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  13. It is great to have some time alone isn't it - Hubby and I went out for breakfast a couple of weeks ago and it was heaven, eve if we did go shopping after

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  14. Sounds like the perfect time together. We never go out on our own without friends - the OH works all the time, and doesn't even come out with N and myself. So going out for an impromptu date (or even an organised one) would be unheard of.

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  15. Oh how lovely to have some time to yourself and so something really nice x

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  16. Aww sounds like you had a lovely time hun and was well deserved. It can be hand juggling kids whilst trying to maintain a relationship xx

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  17. Nothing like going back to basics with a relationship and just spending some quality time together

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